Top 7 Fears of Spirit Communication
Through my own experiences of seeing spirit as a child I encountered so many fears along the way. I used to sleep with a light on hiding under the covers and I could not tell you the number of times I ran home from school after experiencing spirit there! I was worried about what people would think and if my mediumship would be a deal-breaker for them.
These are the 7 top fears…
1. I will connect with or welcome in evil spirits.
Early in my intuitive development, I learned different techniques to ensure that only beings from the light are communicating with me. These techniques included, prayer, invoking Archangels and my spirit team, using crystal grids, and asking for divine, white light.
As with anything, our energy flows where our attention goes and I choose to communicate only with beings of light, my teams, my angels, and my crossed over loved ones. Sometimes energetic ‘bad apples’ would appear in my world or during a client session and when they do, I ask for my spirit team to assist and clear these energies. A firm, “leave now” will always do the trick.
The spirt world will not show you anything you are not ready for. Find a way that makes you feel safe and protected when working with spirit and you will find more ease with your mediumship.
2. I will be an outcast and no longer accepted by my peers.
I found some people just couldn’t get their head around what I had to offer and in the early days I would think I did something wrong when people would no longer talk to me or return my phone calls. In time I learned that their response to me was not about me at all. I also learned to be aware of what certain people could hear and who was open to mediumship.
I really came out of the spiritual closet when my daughter told her class that I talk to dead people! What I know is true for me and so many others, is when you own your magic, your capacities and gifts with mediumship, the right people will root for your success and the rest will fall away.
3. My family and friends will think I am a nutjob and make fun of me.
I will be honest; some did think I was totally crazy in the beginning and I found this a little upsetting. There were a few relationships that quickly changed when they learned that I worked with spirit and at first it was hard for me to understand but over time I realized that it wasn’t me at all and I had to decide that this was what I was doing, no matter what.
To this day, many of my family and friends have readings with me and take classes from me. I know mediumship this is not for everyone and I do not try to convince people anymore. Instead, I am the invitation to something new for them if they choose it. I had a relative poking fun at me at a wedding once and after about an hour my angels dropped a little tidbit that I’m pretty sure he didn’t want people to know about and he quickly became very respectful and actually moved tables.
Spirit always has your back. I asked spirit to move people into my world who would celebrate me and what I have to offer and sure enough, amazing people came into my world who support me and love what I have to offer. In letting go of the relationships that no longer worked for me, I made room in my life for those that do.
4. What if I’m making it all up and look like an idiot?
This was a fear I had when I first started doing readings and the more readings I did, the more feedback I received, and it gave me the validation that I was in fact channeling spirit. I even had one client say after a reading, “There is no way you could have known that, not even searching it on google”!
As with anything, to fully master something you need to practice, and you may stumble and make a bit of a mess at times, but that is all part of becoming the best you can be.
What I know from my experiences is when your energy is clear and balanced, and you have a sacred space to work with spirit, you will receive divine messages and guidance. And, when you make the readings about the other person, you keep your stuff out of the way.
And as crazy at is seemed, I learned that if I was being shown something in a reading that it was a part of the reading some how, so I shared it. In one reading spirit kept showing me KitKat chocolate bars and it just didn’t make any sense to my client so I just left it and a few days later got a call that my client’s nephew, who crossed when he was 8, loved KitKats. When you develop your trust in you and the messages you are receiving, you will witness the magic that mediumship offers.
5. I will never find a partner to accept this or my current partner/spouse will leave.
I remember going for a reading years ago and the woman reading for me told me that I too was a medium and that I would be giving readings and talking to the dead. While I felt a huge weight had been lifted and that was not certified crazy, I thought for sure my husband at the time would leave. I went through years of anxiety and panic attacks and we would end up leaving restaurants early and the idea of going to a concert or the movies was out of the question.
In time I began to finally realize that it was spirit trying to communicate with me all along! If you partner knows that something is important to you, they will accept it. It is important to not try and convince your partner to see things your way, rather, allow them to figure out what works for them and continue to love mediumship and mastering your craft.
6. Things will get even more crazy and I won’t be able to handle it.
Once I understood that all the anxiety and panic was from spirit trying to get my attention and communicate with me, I started to relax into my mediumship more. Once I did though, I worried that I had opened Pandora's Box and would not be able to put the lid back on!
Once you’ve made the connection with the spirit world, you are now co-creating with a plethora of universal energies just waiting to assist you and guide you on your mediumship journey. When you are willing to be aware of everything, especially those in the spirit world, you have access to so much more information and possibilities.
This is where a good spiritual practice can come in handy if you do not already have one. Meditation, yoga, or mindfulness so that you can continue to strengthen your connection with your guides and helpers.
7. A religious doctrine I follow, or my family follows disagrees with or misunderstands communicating with spirit.
In my research I have found that there are countless points of view regarding spirit communication and religious doctrine. Spiritualism is an internationally recognized Christian faith that believes that your loved ones, guides, and angels are in heaven. And there are countless biblical scriptures outlining one-on-one communications with those in spirit whether it is an angel, guide or loved one.
From my experience, mediumship reunites the souls with their grieving families here, bringing comfort, hope, and a new understanding that all is not lost after death. Mediumship is a bridge between Heaven and Earth.
If this is an area of interest for you, and you feel guided, I encourage you to do more research on your own and trust what is true for you.
Here is the link to a podcast episode where I share more about the Top 7 Fears…
Shauna Marie Chandler
Reiki Master/Teacher, Angel Readings, Sacred Geometry