I read an article a couple weeks ago and the message is still with me:
It’s not my responsibility to force anyone’s evolution.
In fact, I have it on a sticky on my computer as a reminder.
You see, being an intuitive, psychic, divine channel, I can see possibilities for everyone and it has taken me time to realize that a) it is not my job to do the work for my clients, b) not everyone wants to achieve greatness, and, c) it’s not up to me to change anyone’s mind.
My Guides use the analogy that you can get a horse to water but you can’t make him drink. Right. Well, sort of. After studying this for the last several years, my research has shown something very interesting. Women, mainly, somewhere inside hold the belief that it IS there job to help, things WILL get better once everyone does this or stops doing that. We somehow believe that if we do in fact get the horse to water that it’s a sure bet – he’s going to do that thing you really want him to and he’s going to like it.
What they don’t see coming is this…
The horse gets to the water and has a change of mind. Maybe his feet are sore, maybe he realized that he’s being manipulated and he doesn’t like it or maybe he just decided he didn’t need a drink after all.
Something fascinating happens at this point.
The women get pissed – really pissed. He came all this way and he won’t drink? Not on my watch they think – he just needs a little help. So, they begin to try and coax the horse to drink.
Look how nice and refreshing the water is they say. Nothing.
They offer him a cup filled with water to drink from. Not interested.
They offer him a cup filled with water to drink from with a straw. Still nothing.
The best - they offer to spit the water in the horse's mouth. Nada.
All the while NOT hearing or accepting his change of mind, for whatever reason. And, my research has shown that when we are so focused on getting someone else do to what we would like them to, chances are we are avoiding looking at something within us.
So, the next time you get the horse to water and he doesn’t drink, stop wasting your time and energy and let the horse decide what it wants and get back to creating the life you are meant to. When we focus on our own evolution, we impact the world around us in magical ways so then maybe, just maybe, the horse will eventually drink and if he doesn’t we are too busy creating our own magic to notice.
If you DO want to achieve greatness and you ARE ready to commit to change, I would love to work with you. I specialize in transformational coaching that gets results. Shauna xo
Shauna Marie Chandler
Reiki Master/Teacher, Angel Readings, Sacred Geometry